A couple of weeks ago I went on a day trip with my daughter to
eat lunch and shop in a small town in Louisiana where I enjoyed
one of my favorite meals — fried green tomatoes and Cajun meat
pies. But it was only a couple of years ago when I ate my very
first fried green tomato! Unfortunately, I've spent most of my
life unwilling to try something new. And I can't help but wonder
how much I have missed.
Some would say we're prisoners of habit. From the way we think
and believe to how we react and behave, we resist changes in the
patterns we've built for our lives. And from my own experience,
not doing something or not trying something has also been
habit-forming. But habits can be broken.
"Old habits die hard," the old adage proclaims. In other words,
if a belief or way of behaving dies hard, it takes a long time
to disappear and is not given up easily. I suspect some smokers
unsuccessfully trying to quit would agree with this. However, I
have a brother who, after smoking for probably 30 years of his
life, easily quit once he decided to quit. His firm commitment
brought discipline and confidence. He quit smoking on New Year's
Eve 15 years ago and never broke his resolution. So, breaking an
old habit is possible and it need not be arduous.
A recent study asserts we're set in our ways when it comes to
our habits, our tastes, our preferences, and suggests getting
stuck in the status quo comes with age. The study sought to
learn when we lose our taste for the new.
For example, survey results from this study concluded that most
people are 20 years old or younger when they first hear the
popular music they choose to listen to for the rest of their
lives. And if you're more than 35 years old when a style of
popular music is introduced, there's a greater than 95 percent
chance that you'll never choose to listen to it. I must say,
when it comes to music, I guess I'm in the remaining 5 percent.
But, that said, I still definitely enjoy listening to the music
of my high school and college days, too.
When it comes to food, I don't think I ever had the taste for
the new, even when I was young. My unwillingness to try new
foods became a bad habit early on.
But, why is repetition so appealing? Some suggest our natural
tendency is to revert to deep-rooted memories. Some say we're
afraid of making a mistake, failing or looking foolish. Some
believe we acquire patterns of behavior that continue to occur
automatically because we don't question or consider a change.
How can we break bad habits and stop misguided reason from
directing our behavior? How can we keep our tastes from
narrowing or lose our fear of change or unwillingness to try
something new?
Perhaps we can best begin by not believing a wrong concept of
who we are, such as picky, addicted, fat, unreasonable,
obstinate, unprogressive!
For me, the impulse to want to try new foods is a result of a
newly gained self-image. For years I desired more order, balance
and activity in my life, along with less body weight. Today, I'm
30 pounds lighter and happier and more energized than ever. I've
also become more open-minded, spontaneous and hungry for all
things new and different — including food.
In the Bible, Paul tells us that when we get rid of our old and
stubborn ways, we can renew our thoughts and attitudes and see
ourselves as the God-created inquisitive and spiritual child
that we are. He wrote, "Since, we do not have the excuse of
ignorance, everything — and I do mean everything — connected
with that old way of life has to go. It's rotten through and
through. Get rid of it! And then take on an entirely new way of
life — a God fashioned life, a life renewed from the inside and
working itself into your conduct as God accurately reproduces
his character in you." (Ephesians 4:22-24, Eugene Peterson, The
Message)
Take heart, my friends. You need not miss out on the rich,
vibrant world out there with all the infinite possibilities and
God-provided good. You are governed by God alone and are not
enslaved by habit or limited thinking or opinions. You have a
spiritual nature, a spiritual instinct, which is open and
receptive to God's expansive point of view that is ever new,
fresh, invigorating and full of life. So, if you want to make a
change or try something new, you can do it!